Parenting While Struggling With Your Mental Health

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Parenting is a journey filled with joy and challenges. When you add mental health struggles into the mix, the journey can feel overwhelming. Knowing that you are not alone, and it’s possible to navigate both parenting and mental health effectively is a game changer.

Personally, I’ve struggled with my mental health for years; from battling depression, anxiety, and PTSD. We often question, “why me” or feel that we aren’t living up to our full potential. As someone that experiences depressive episodes it’s hard to know when they’ll come, but I’ve learned to pay attention to what triggers me and how to manage it overall so that I’m able to show up as the best version of myself.

Acknowledging the Struggle

It's crucial to acknowledge that struggling with mental health while parenting is valid and common. Openly recognizing your challenges is the first step toward managing them. Using positive language with your children is very helpful. 

For example:

  • Mommy is having a rough day, I need a few minutes.

  • Let’s have a silent ride today, mommy has a big meeting and needs to refocus.

  • I’m taking time for myself so that I can show up as my best self.

Common Mental Health Challenges

Many parents face issues such as anxiety, depression, postpartum depression, and other mental health conditions. Identifying your specific challenges can help you seek the right support.

Removing Stigma

Removing the stigma surrounding mental health is vital. Talking openly about your experiences can encourage others to seek help and foster a supportive environment. It sounds cliche but it's okay not to be okay. We have to start being honest about that and having conversations, even asking for help when needed.

Self-Care Strategies

Prioritizing self-care is not selfish; it's necessary. Taking care of your mental and physical health allows you to be a better parent. I often find that this is so hard to do. Taking time away from my kids to do something from myself often feels like a hard task.

Daily Practices

Here are some daily practices that can help.

  • Get adequate sleep

  • Engage in regular physical activity (even if its a 15-30 minute walk)

  • Practice mindfulness or meditation

  • Maintain a healthy diet

  • Set aside time for hobbies

Seeking Support

Seeking professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Therapists, support groups, and medical professionals can provide valuable resources and strategies. Research these things in your area to find out what’s available in your area. There are so many resources that you may not know of.

Effective Parenting Techniques

Adjusting parenting techniques to accommodate your mental health is essential. Remember, it's okay to not be perfect.

Communication

Open and honest communication with your children is crucial. Explain your feelings in age-appropriate ways and let them know they are not the cause.

Setting Realistic Expectations

Avoid putting too much pressure on yourself. Set realistic expectations for both yourself and your children. It’s okay if some days are less productive than others. It’s the perfect time to remind yourself that you’re human and life be lifin’!

Creating a Routine

A consistent routine can provide stability and reduce anxiety for both you and your children. Predictable schedules help everyone feel more secure.

Resources and Support

Numerous resources are available to help parents struggling with mental health.

Online Communities

Online forums and communities can provide support and a sense of belonging. Connecting with others who share similar experiences can be incredibly helpful.

Professional Help

Finding a therapist or counselor who specializes in parental mental health can provide personalized strategies and support. Finding the right therapist was extremely helpful for me.

Crisis Hotlines

In times of crisis, knowing where to turn for help is crucial. Crisis hotlines and emergency services are available 24/7.